These 7 motivational tips to influence others will help you get all the help you need from others to achieve your goals.
To influence others, you first need to connect with them and align their thoughts in the same direction as your own thoughts. This is like preparing the soil before planting a seed.
There is a beautiful motivational example of this in the movie Avatar. Before the native Na’vi people can ride any creature in their world, they must connect the tip of their long-braided hair to the antennae that all creatures have.
This connection enables Na’vi riders to connect with their mounts and guide them using minimal physical effort. [1]
Influencing Others
Here are seven motivational techniques that will make people feel happy to do what you desire. These are modified versions of motivational keys expressed by Yumi Sakugawa. [2]
1. Make them feel respected and important, since everyone is happy to feel that they are special.
2. Be charming, confident, and likeable, since they will be happy to do what you want if they like you.
3. Mirror their verbal and nonverbal behavior in a subtle way to build rapport and trust.
4. Start by making them say yes, nod, or agree with what you say using positive words. This will make their thoughts more open to whatever you say afterwards.
5. Use motivational words to make their thoughts create positive feelings about what you suggest, since emotional appeals work better than rational appeals for most people.
6. Use motivational words to inspire them to do what you suggest, instead of telling them what to do.
7. Sincerely show that you have their best interests at heart.
These motivational tips to influence others will help you communicate easily with others through mutual understanding.
Using motivational positive words to focus on the solution is much better than using negative words that focus on the problem.
For example, if someone has not done what was agreed upon, asking,
“When are you going to do it?” is far more motivational than asking,
“Why have you not done it?”
Click Here to see how a little child learned how to use this important concept.
Your ability to use motivational tips to influence others will also help you resolve their conflicts.
Resolving Conflicts
The winner of the Nobel Prize in Physics in 1922 said something profound that holds the key to resolving conflicts:
“The opposite of a trivial truth is plainly false. The opposite of a great truth is also true.”
Niels Bohr
Conflicts arise when different people see different aspects of the same reality from different points of view.
Here is a simple motivational method to help resolve such conflicts: Start by finding higher-level goals that the disagreeing parties would agree on.
For example, say that a lenient father and an authoritarian mother have conflicting views on how to bring up their child.
The starting point in the conflict resolution process would be a casual discussion to guide their thoughts to a future scenario where their child will have to fight to survive in a fiercely competitive world.
Then, guide their thoughts toward the best way to empower their child by developing its self-confidence.
During this process, they will discover to what extent their two approaches would support or oppose their agreed goal of empowering their child to overcome daunting challenges on its own.
This process involves all the motivational tips to influence others. You can use them to initiate an open discussion about the pros and cons of their different thoughts. Its aim would be to find the most viable solution to reach the agreed-upon higher-level goal. This would be a mix of their different thoughts and approaches.
Once you help the opposing parties communicate freely and openly, they will resolve their conflict on their own. And they will take joint responsibility for implementing the agreed course of action. This will not happen if you help resolve their conflict through direct intervention.
As you have seen above, using the 7 motivational tips to influence others will make your life easier at home, work, and play.
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